WHY DO WE LIKE PORN SO MUCH?

Watching porn can’t be a bad thing, right?

Or can it? The fact of the matter is that everybody watches porn and by that I mean like 99% of men and an uncertain percentage of women. There are some guys who would consider porn as harmful. You have probably heard this theory quite a great deal and you have always wondered what it is talking about. Just like me and like a lot of other people.

But before proceeding any further, let’s make several distinctions. Not all porn movies fall into the same category. Personally, I only accept those that do not interfere with the free will. In other words, I stick to mature porn, where adult people are involved and they are in no way forced to perform the acts. The movies containing minors seem despicable and for a good reason.

So why do we enjoy porn so much?

Well, first of all because it is fun and you can see all of your fantasies coming to life on screen. Do you like rape games? We got it cover. Would you prefer some dirty gang-bang instead? We got that too. Or maybe you are a bondage and scat guy. Fortunately, or unfortunately, there is material for you as well. There is a bit of everything for everybody.

Fantasies, in particular, play a major role in anyone’s sex life. It matters not that you fuck, but how you do it. And most of us do not get to fuck as we would want to. There are many reasons for that. Maybe your girlfriend is not on the same page with you. Or maybe you have not shared any fantasies with her, fearing that she may consider you for the freak that you are.

Or maybe she agrees to accommodate you, just that it is not the same thing. You can feel when she is doing it because she has to, not because she likes it. And this could ruin everything for us. This means that we can only experience true pleasure when resourcing to porn.

And there is another interesting aspect that needs to be taken in consideration. It seems like fantasies are that much more pleasant and stimulant the more they remain at that stage. As long as you keep the fantasy just the way it is, all will be just fine. But once you have decided to step it up and apply them in reality, they will lose all the charm. This is why porn movies seem so appealing to us.

But are they harmful?

There is an entire debate based on this aspect. In general, there are few generally accepted reasons explaining why porn is bad. So let’s have a look at the most used ones:

1. They objectify women

Porn movies treat women like they are sexual objects, mostly because she plays the submissive role, spreading the idea that women need to be treated in the same manner you would treat a fleshlight. You have surely heard this theory before, right? It is all over the internet and if you type Anita Sarkeesian in your browser, you will know what I am talking about.

There is an entire freak show based on this idea everywhere she makes an appearance and you do not need to take my word for it. Watch some of her Youtube videos where she talks about the sexism used in video games. You will get the point pretty fast. So porn movies objectify the woman, because they suggest the idea of sexual manipulation.

There are 2 reasons why this theory is rubbish. First of all, those women are there doing exactly what they want. Some for pleasure, some for the money, others for both. But it does not matter. What matters is that they are there on their own accord. Nobody forces them to do anything. Unless we are talking about rape mimicking scenes. Good stuff.

And then there is another aspect you may have not known about. Women are better paid than men. Like a lot better. They could rise up to several thousands of dollars per session, while men would get $50 or so. You do the math and tell me the result!

2. Porn movies contribute to spreading a compulsive behavior

One of the theories is that the predilection for porn movies can quickly become an obsession at one point. In that moment the one involved will find it extremely difficult or even impossible to get horny in the company of a real woman. It happens. The only thing that will stimulate him will be porn.

Although there are individuals experiencing this thing, it does not go the same for everybody. As a solution, try consuming less porn. Take some day offs. You also need to remember that the porn industry is said to make us insensitive to women’s sexuality. In the sense that we start considering them as sexual toys.

This is another unlikely effect, especially when you think it works with everyone. I agree, there are some who would fall into that trap, but there is no danger in getting there if you have a strong education and a rock-solid value system.

3. The porn industry allows for the spreading of abuses

What that means is that, whenever you consume porn you are supporting that part of the industry that deals with abuses. If normal porn exists, then there must also exist the branch with the fetishes. The demand is there and someone must deliver the supply. Then you end up satisfying weird and even dangerous and illegal fetishes, like the ones involving minors.

It is, in essence, a downward spiral, leading to some disturbing effects in the future. It is all linked together. If you take it that way, I assume the argument is pretty solid.

So, instead of watching others fucking, why don’t you go fuck a woman yourself. You have a lot more to gain. Ask around, people will confirm it.