WHAT MAKES YOU UNATTRACTIVE AS A MAN
What women want
Most women want a masculine man who can take care of them, one they can rely on. Each woman has different qualities she’s looking for in an ideal partner. Some of them prefer funny men, others like serious ones; some prefer adventurous men, others like the more tempered type. All that being said, all women want the same main qualities in a man, which make him most desirable.
It’s something natural, engrained in a woman’s biology. Just as the vast majority of men are attracted to feminine traits, opposite to theirs, and which they find in a woman, so do women feel attracted to what is inherently masculine in a man.
But it’s a polished kind of masculinity that we’re talking about here; masculinity can be positive, but it can also be negative, depending on many factors. Moral and ethical principles that a man develops in time can make the difference between the ideal man that every woman fantasize about, and a violent, insensitive, impulsive man that means trouble.
Your masculinity as a man is influenced by your biology, first of all—the level of testosterone in your body, but also your environment, your life models, what you learn, and the qualities you develop with time. Sadly, nowadays you can hear a lot of poor and counterproductive advice, which only leads to more confusion among men.
The feminist movement seeks to get rid of gender boundaries and it actively promotes a negative standard for men nowadays, despite its intention for progress. The ‘ideal’ man, lacking in ‘toxic’ masculinity is actually unattractive for most women.
It might sound nice on paper: an open-hearted man, who can easily communicate about his feelings, who’s sensitive, doesn’t want to dominate those around him, is modern-minded, fights for the feminist cause, is peaceful and wants to avoid conflict at all cost. Men and women become equals, they fulfill the same function and have the same duties in the relationship.
In actuality, this kind of man is lacking in everything that defines and makes him attractive in a woman’s eyes. He becomes passive, feels an aversion towards risk and competition, is emotionally and mentally weak and cannot stand his ground to gain others’ respect. A woman doesn’t need an equal or an ally; she needs a man who can make her feel secure, a man to protect her, a man who makes a good leader.
Qualities that are damaging to men
A man who can’t manage his own life, who has a mental breakdown because of the smallest challenge life throws his way, is a weak and unattractive man for most women. A man should be stoic and courageous, he should always learn from his mistakes and always keep pushing. Masculine qualities such as bravery, being daring and strong, and having honor—these are all indispensable to any attractive man.
However, it should be mentioned that masculinity and bravery are not worth much without mental maturity and well-established moral principles. In fact, without these important ingredients, bravery is nothing more than recklessness, and the masculine impulse towards competition and domination will lead to tyranny and violence, becoming outright destructive.
If you were looking for a list of the most negative and unattractive qualities in a man, keep in mind the following, in order to avoid them:
- Lack of stoicism, being emotionally and mentally weak
- Immaturity
- Inability to take any responsibility or to accept the consequences of your actions
- Impulsivity
- Being passive
- Lack of confidence; low self-esteem
- Inability to stand your ground and to dominate
- Lack of moral principles
Girly men, failed men
The kind of man the women find most repulsive is perhaps the girly man. An emotionally frail man who would rather run away from competition, who bitches and moans all the time. This kind of man does not at all inspire trust and reliability.
A woman will never feel safe next to a hypersensitive man oozing estrogen from every pore. Women need a leader they can rely on, who can take responsibility for their family, and who isn’t afraid to fight for what he wants.
A healthy relationship is built upon this dynamic between men and women. The man builds and creates prosperity, while the woman looks after the family’s emotional needs and creates a pleasant and peaceful atmosphere. Both partners have to counterbalance each other, bringing something different to the table, that the other is lacking. Just like a man finds a woman’s sensitivity attractive, because it awakens his protective instinct, a woman will find a man’s strength and stoicism attractive in return.
The other unattractive type is that of the failed man. We’re talking about an immature, egotistical man who can never accept any loss or shortcoming he has. He doesn’t want to get better as a person, but always expects only what’s best in life, without having to make any effort. He’s cynical and negative and always finds excuses for why he can’t reach success. The world is shitty and unfair, and he is always unlucky or misunderstood.
Most often, even if he has the chance to turn things around, he sabotages himself and finds all sorts of reasons for why it’s not worth trying. It’s not hard to figure out why this kind of man awakens an instinctive repulsion for women. Afterall, this kind of attitude is foul irrespective of gender.
It’s an attitude that stops your from reaching your full potential. You will never become the best version of yourself, if you’re always looking on the negative side of things, or if you let your laziness get a hold of you.
A woman doesn’t want to become your second mom, and that’s not her duty in a relationship either. A man must be mature and diligent; he’s the head of the family and the woman expects him to provide guidance and reassurance. If the woman senses that she can’t rely on you, she’ll be looking for someone else. In short, qualities that stand in opposition to the stoic, rational, proactive, and masculine man are inherently unattractive to women.
