THE NEED FOR SEXUAL FANTASIES
The need for sexual fantasies
In this day and age there are many people who have forgotten the true pleasure that sex can bring. However, most of the times, it’s not their fault. People simply have a great deal of responsibilities nowadays that take priority. This has turned sex into a means to an end, something to take their mind off of their daily problems.
Quite a shame, since sex can be so much more than that. In fact, it needs to become more than that once again. This isn’t meant to be just a bland activity that you resort to from lack of having something better to do. No, this is art, my friend. It’s a tiny piece of heaven that we must enjoy accordingly.
There are no shortcuts if you are to enjoy what sex has to offer. Not that it’s all that difficult to begin with. As plain and rude as it might sound, we’re not much different from animals when it comes to this topic. The only difference between us and them is that we can use our heads to make it more interesting and exciting.
And I don’t mean it in the literal way, although I bet there are some folk out there that have tried that already. Not entirely sure what to say about that myself. But hey, whatever floats your boat, right? Back to the topic at hand, people tend to keep sex a tad bit too simple. Which isn’t all that bad, but the possibilities are almost limitless, so why not explore them?
Taking the first step
The first and hardest thing you have to do is stop being so absorbed by everything bad happening in your life. That’s what has been distracting you all this time from enjoying sex and living in the moment. It’s what’s been preventing you from imagining all the wild things you could and actually doing them.
As I said previously, we really do have to use our heads if we want to start having more fun. And what’s more fun than putting your imagination to good use, especially when it comes to sex. Towards that end, you’ll have to think about what really gets you going. All those hidden desires and buried thoughts will have to rise to the surface if you are to make the most out of your sexual interactions.
What do I mean by that, exactly? Well, I’m talking about fantasies of course. No, not the ones you have about parallel worlds that need saving and whatnot. Although you could use that as incentive as well if you’re into role-playing, I suppose. I mean the fantasies you have about your partners. What you want to do to them, with them or if you’re simply going to let them have their way with you.
Like I said, the possibilities are almost limitless and exploring this vast world is definitely going to be worth the trouble. Whatever you think of, and is also humanly possible, you can most probably do.
Don’t be shy, give it a try
Another reason why people don’t really get out there and make their desires known to their partners, is the fact that they tend to be shy or scared that people might find them weird or at times even disgusting. And while there will be those that will shun your fantasies, you don’t have to take it to heart. It just means they don’t have the same tastes as you do, which isn’t in any way wrong. In fact, the differences in sexual preferences might even make it more interesting once you find a suitable partner.
Keep an open mind and always remember that you need not the approval of those around you, but the acceptance that comes from within. You need to feel comfortable with your own thoughts, so first and foremost you have to embrace your fantasies, otherwise there won’t be any real fun in store for you.
Once you get accustomed to being yourself and being honest about your desires, it will be much easier to communicate your wants and yearnings to your partners. Getting past this point will lead to a realm of pleasure and freedom unlike any you have felt until now. So, make sure you make those intimate nights as spicy as possible from now on. I promise you won’t regret it, even in the least.
Learning about each other’s fantasies
Now, you’ve spent some time getting accustomed to your own inner desires. It’s time you start learning about those of others as well. What, you thought this was just a one-man job? You need teamwork for this, pal. And teamwork starts with communication. Make sure that your partners know what you have in store for them and they should do the same with you.
This might sound like a difficult task, which it might be. Seeing as how knowing yourself and talking about what gets you going are two different things entirely. As such, starting a subject on this matter with your partner might prove hard, but it’s crucial that you do so. Otherwise you might not get to enjoy sex with them to the fullest.
Be sure that the both of you are comfortable with each other’s ideas of fun and start exploring what options you have. I cannot emphasize enough how important it is that you let your fantasies influence your decisions when it comes to sex. In such circumstances, your imagination can truly flourish, giving birth to desires that you didn’t even believe yourself capable of having to begin with.
But that’s the beauty if sex. If done properly, it helps you discover sides of yourself that you weren’t aware of. So next time you think about getting in bed with someone, remember to let yourself feel that moment and enjoy it to the fullest. You’ll be amazed by what you’ll find out.
The nature of people tends to be hidden deep within, and this is just another way to make it rise to the surface.
