THE DON JUAN TYPE OF MAN
What does a man need to be a Don Juan?
To start with, this question begs another question – what kind of man attracts women, and why is that? As it can be observed, there are men out there who have as many women as they want, and there are others who haven’t had sex in their entire lives. We need to understand the difference between these two men before we start listing out the characteristics of a Don Juan-type of man.
So, we have many men that fail miserably in terms of relationships and interaction with women. There’s one reason that connects all of these men – the attitude. In human relationships, the attitude is worth about 80% of what you need to dominate the situation or conversation. If you have a weak personality and you’re letting people step all over you, no one will take you seriously, especially women.
Therefore, the starting point for a reforming incel should be changing his attitude and behavior. To be successful with women, a man needs the following qualities:
- Self-confidence
- A strong personality
- Masculinity
- The desire to dominate
- Calmness
- Emotional self-mastery and rational thinking
These “qualities”, if we can call them as such, are malleable and flexible. This means you can condition yourself to behave in certain ways, and obtain specific attitudes through practice. Anyone can obtain these qualities.
Masculine and self-confident men
When it comes to a man’s physical attractiveness, it pales in comparison to masculinity and self-confidence. Indeed, on a first glance, many women are attracted to a man’s sexual appeal and godly-chiseled physique. However, without a dominant attitude to build on that sex appeal, all that physique is going down the drain fast enough to dazzle even professional incels.
Most of the time, however, good-looking, ripped men are aware of their advantages. It’s logical, then, that they’re self-confident, and this is observable from their behavior and attitude in society. The moment you impose your viewpoint, the world respects and gives you the attention you crave for. This is all the more true with dominant men who trust themselves.
Human relationships are biased against weak men who can’t impose their own will. The successful men are exactly the ones who are self-confident, and women will be more attracted to such individuals as well. They can have any woman they want, as long as they want it. Comparatively, incels are disillusioned with their own failings in terms of relationships and sex, that they lose their self-confidence. However, they don’t realize that their failures are, in fact, caused by their weak and insufficiently imposing attitude in society.
To conquer any woman you want to, you need to become aware of your potential. As a man, you must behave as if you hold the world in your palm, as if you controlled everything. Clearly, this doesn’t mean you should be unjustifiably arrogant. Instead, be calm, and exude a natural and undying self-confidence in yourself. Practically, you know you’re the biggest and most performant apex predator out there.
Keep a tight leash on your emotions
Generally, emotional men aren’t attractive to women. That’s because emotiveness is associated to weakness and vulnerability. A sensitive and emotive man will be looked down upon as being incapable, inept, and weak. But why should men be strong and in possession of self-control?
Simple – because that’s the nature of social roles and the bio-psychological make-up that defines our lives. Both biologically and psychologically speaking, a man is “built” to lead, to dominate, and to control the situation. A man needs to be imposing, and to change the world. Otherwise, he won’t be satisfied. It’s only logical that power and rationality take men to the peaks of success.
In a world where we associate masculinity, strength, and competitiveness to success, it becomes obvious why men needs to be strong. Emotions make you weak – that’s the social perception attributed to men. As a man, you aren’t allowed to show your emotions if you don’t want to become a subject of ridicule and derision. Clearly, there are certain situations where showing emotions would be a sign of strength. It all boils down to the attitude.
When it comes to women, their emotiveness is perceived as being natural and normal. There’s nothing abnormal to seeing a woman crying or giving up when confronted with a difficult situation. However, it’s entirely different seeing a man doing that. Even when such an attitude is fully justifiable, the reaction by itself is abnormal and perceived to be a sign of weakness.
Rationality as a precursor to success
As a man, you must hold perfect self-mastery of your emotions but that’s not all. The natural follow-up to this is to demonstrate your reasonable, rational, and practical mindset. You should ideally be an auto-didactic person who follows precise goals in life. No one will offer your dreams on a platter, and you have to fight for them. Success lies just behind the extremities of pain and effort.
This is true in relationships just as it’s true professionally. To win over a woman, you need to prove your strength, masculinity, and self-confidence. You must show her that you’ll provide for her, and that her life will be a lot better alongside you. You’re the only person who can do these things. A woman will always prefer a masculine and self-confident man over an emotional, vulnerable, and excessively affectionate one. She’s looking for a protector, someone strong enough to care for her indefinitely.
A woman tends to be more emotional and sensitive than a man. It’s in her nature, and everyone accepts it. No one’s blaming her for her emotional reactions. Alternatively, everyone feels the need to protect a crying woman. However, a man shouldn’t react emotionally or cry by default. That’s not natural or preferred. Everyone despises crying men because they appear to be weak. These truths should tell you all you need to know about the Don Juan-type of men that women want, and about the factors that contribute to reaching this level.
