SADOMASOCHISTIC INSTINCTS
I’m talking about the inner desires that each of us experience when we faced with a naked woman, because it’s men I’m referring to now. Most of the times, a man will prefer to dominate and control the sexual games thanks to his masculine instincts.
He will initiate the contact and take most of the decisions, if the partner is willing to be dominated and manipulated. At a deeper level, we stumble upon sadism and masochism though. The first trait is characteristic to the men who become excited and relive pleasure when they hurt and provoke suffering to their partners. It’s not as bad as it sounds, since it doesn’t degenerate into torture, but tantric games instead.
If you discover new pleasures in the form of slapping your girl or pulling her hair during sex, these are the telltale signs of a sexual sadist. Going a bit further and we get to immobilization, to more violence and physical aggression that take the pleasure to a whole other level.
For a sadist, there’s nothing more satisfying and pleasing than seeing his woman in a submissive position, where he can control, dominate, and play with her body as he likes. And he does so in a rough and aggressive way.
One of the easier forms that sexual sadism can take is tantric sex. It takes place when the fuck is so good that she’s on the brink of utmost pleasure, but you pull back right before the climax. Denying her the pleasure, teasing her constantly, knowing that only you can satisfy her cravings, but choosing to humiliate and pervert those desires, this is what tantric sex is all about. And one of the many pleasures of a sexual sadist.
Masochism, on the other hand, is the very opposite of sadism, at the other end of the sexual spectrum. This time, it’s the woman that tends to have such masochistic pleasures because of her psychological build. She likes to be hit, slapped, restrained and immobilized, to have no control over her body, no choice but to submit.
A masochistic woman wants you to fuck her brains out with no holds barred, aggressively, in an animalistic and ultimately rough way. She wants to be punished and forced, for you to ravage her without her consent. Just like a gentleman would act.
Actually, for the hardcore masochistic women, there’s no sexual arousing or satisfaction without a good slap or physical restraint. They want to be tied to the bed and savagely fucked, to have a cock shoved down their throat until they choke with it.
Perhaps you’ll refuse to act in such a disrespectful way to a woman, but let’s be serious. She wants that. For her, sex is nothing but a carnal pleasure, even filthy you might say, perverted and obscene. But it’s this character that gets her off. Forbidden pleasures were always the sweetest. For a masochistic woman, violence, beatings, humiliation and immobilization are the ultimate aphrodisiac.
Going ever deeper into her, I mean her pussy... uhh, I mean, into the heart of the problem, we’ll stumble on the real sadomasochistic tools of the trade – whips, chains, bondage stuff, and so on. For a sadomasochistic couple, they are essential for a quality fuck. They both need external stimuli to reach the climax.
Masochistic men and sadistic women
Of course there are men who get erect as soon as their partners start hitting or whipping them. Not only this, but they will have an orgasm simply by being physically maltreated. And because a sexual sadist may appear obscene or sick to normal people, his partner needs to be either a sadist, a masochist, or both.
In her case, we can’t talk about direct physical violence anymore. A woman is generally weaker than a man, Sure, there are those that can maul down a bear with their bare hands and put you to sleep with a slap, but those are the exceptions. I’m talking about the plain women, the tender and feminine looking ones, not the fucking Yetis.
To satisfy her masochistic partner, she can only use bondage tools, the whip and immobilization. Nothing is more pleasing for him than to be tightly tied down to the bed while his partner dances on his cock violently, at times biting and scratching him.
A sadistic woman is the feminine counterpart of the sadistic man. She’s just meaner and crueler. Control and humiliation are the playthings of a sadistic woman, just to satisfy her own cravings. For her, an orgasm must always be accompanied by the discomfort, pain, and the suffering of her partner.
Is it normal to be a sadomasochist?
There are plenty of sexual fetishes and perversities, even deviances, each weirder and more aberrant than the other. Things like voyeurism, cuckoldry, bestiality and zoophilia. Some of them are against the natural order and the common sense, but sadomasochism doesn’t fall down to such a level.
Well, it does, but I’m talking about the moderate sadomasochism, not the one that degenerates into gory torture and bloody, mindless violence. These are the very extremes of brutality. There are many examples of people so sadistic and cruel that you’d think they direct snuff film in their free time. It’s quite possible they had a role in “A Serbian Film” as well.
Such people should be buried under the prison, alive. But I digress. Regarding the moderate sadomasochism, you don’t need to despair if you have such predilections. They are instinctual, sexually inclined, and many others share these feelings. What you do in your bedroom is private as well.
In such a relationship, it’s important that both partners agree on the extent of the BDSM techniques and the violence that’s going to take place. This doesn’t let the situation get out of hand.
With limits and enough awareness, sadomasochism is just another perversity, another fetish that can still be considered normal. It’s not that different from fetishes like deepthroat, bondage, rape simulations, foot fetishes, and so on. As long as both partners agree on the extent of the applied violence, the level of humilitation and aggresiveness, everything is alright.
