LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT
What is love at first sight?
I’m talking about that moment when you first meet the woman of your dreams and realize destiny’s smiling upon you. You haven’t even talked to her and already you’ve realized she’s the one. Undoubtedly, you want to spend the rest of your life with her. Does that happen in reality? Surely, if we’re talking about some people’s romantic naivete, because that’s what it is – proof of immaturity and brashness. Most of the time, such “relationships”, if we can call them thus, are doomed to break apart.
How many times have you witnessed such stories being successful? Not many times, I’d wager. A stable relationship can’t be born out of immaturity, haste, and naivete. As long as two people share common viewpoints and try hard enough to live together, the relationship can progress peacefully. However, in most cases, such relationships don’t even get to start off before dying off.
Love at first sight revolves around instinctual and emotional appreciations – these things are uncertain and deceiving. The woman in front of you might have a completely opposite personality, wildly different life goals, and so on. As long as you don’t even get to know her better, any kind of love besides the superficial one is impossible. Appreciating one single aspect of her, such as the physical one, isn’t equivalent to appreciating all the other aspects (which you don’t even know yet).
How can you know if it’s love?
Romanticism and sexuality are imprecise, especially if you don’t have the necessary knowledge of experiences that could help you. To be more certain if a woman is your match, you must consider the following:
- Her personality
- Character
- Emotional stability
- Life goals
- Professional prospects
- Similarities to you
It’s important to know what kind of person your potential partner is. Even this statement is bizarre in and of itself, because knowing your future partner better is obviously important. A relationship between two people is based on communication, compromises, and a capacity to understand the other’s viewpoint. Love appears after getting to know each other, once you’ve gotten to know your partner better. Only then can you truly begin to love her, once you accept her as a whole.
Sexuality and physical attractiveness play an important part in love. Two persons should be attracted to each other if there is to be love between them. If there’s no physical attraction, then there is no love. However, there are relationships that rely neither on love, nor physical attraction. These are relationships where one of the partners has other, more material interests.
Searching for the perfect woman
Firstly, there is no perfection, so such a search would always be useless. All you can do is look for a woman that matches your expectations the best, but you have to be prepared to understand that even she will be flawed in some ways. You will never be completely contnet with her because everyone is his own person. She’ll have a distinct personality, a different character, various goals in life, and multiple physical and psychological traits.
Secondly, how do you even start looking for the perfect woman? All you’re actually doing is rejecting everyone because you notice their falws, which makes you a celibate. The concept of a perfect woman is just as naive as the concept of love at first sight. None of them are based on solid, rational grounds. This makes it so that everything that results from this to be uncertain and shaky.
As a man, you have to possess the necessary requirements to attract women. If you aren’t the spitting image of an ideal man, then the search for the ideal woman is a simple illusion. Just as you’re driven by certain ideals, it just so happens that women are the same. They’re looking for someone masculine who can take care of them, someone with well-defined professional prospects who can fuck their brains out. Can you brag about these qualities?
Personal inadequacies
Love at first sight is rapidly put to the test when you get to know the other person. There are so many potential inadequacies and mismatches between two people that it seems almost impossible to result in a relationship. However, love begins with the compromises that both of you make. The fewer compromises, the stronger and more stable the relationship, and the happier you are. That’s because fewer compromises means you two are similar in so many respects. For instance, perhaps you’ll need to modify certain things about your lifestyle once you’re in a relationship.
These inadequacies and mismatches are the reason many relationships fail. More precisely, one of the partners isn’t capable or willing to make compromises and accept the other person’s differences. This rigidity leads to conflicts, arguments, and finally, to breaking up. Sexuality, for instance, can cause many problems between two people. If one of them wants to have sex but the other is impassible and cold, one of them is going to make a compromise. If none of them give way, hard feelings are going to pile up.
However, once you and your woman reach one or two consensual agreements, the relationship becomes much more stable than before. Love makes its appearance, which later turns into routine. What, you didn’t know? Love loses its passion and intensity proportionate to the duration of a relationship. The more time passes, the more likely it is for love to become routine, but not a monotonous and depressing one. You become used to the other person’s presence on your life, and the little habits that bring you closer.
This form of love is the most durable, if you can get to it. True happiness appears as a relationship progresses, once love becomes routine. If you know play your cards right, love at first sight leads to astonishing results. As immature and hastened you may be at first, if you get to know the other person and build a solid understanding, there’s hope for a relationship to bloom. Just be determined and seek to understand where she’s coming from!
