HOW TO LOVE A WOMAN
With patience and attention
It’s not a secret that a woman tends to become jealous or possessive with her partner, even if she doesn’t have any real reasons to. This is simply a natural predilection of women and, from a certain perspective, it is understandable. Anyway, a woman will always want her partner to focus only on her.
She’ll prefer to know that you don’t talk to other women other than the polite remarks which should be rigid and inflexible, to show detachment. And this can become annoying from a moment forward. As such, if you really want to know how you can love her despite her possessive pretentions, keep on reading.
First off, be patient and realize that any masculine man who has the tiniest self-respect for himself knows how to control his own woman. In the sense that he needs to know when to be firm and rigid in certain situations, even if she holds opposite opinions. It’s never required, necessary or even justifiable to resort to physical or verbal abuse against a woman. This is because you can impose your will in a much more efficient way.
In other words, simply relay your position on the problem to her, and make her understand that it’s pointless for her to continue with the emotional appeals. Once you’re reached a conclusion, she needs to know that you won’t change your perspective despite her constant pestering.
Give her the understanding she craves for
At the same time, you don’t have to think that a woman is always unjustified in her remarks or uncertainties. Or that you need to suppress those ahead of time in an aggressive manner. Agreed, most of them are emotional in nature, complete exaggerations that aren’t realistic or rational.
However, despite your tolerance and patience weakening by the second, you have to maintain a minimum degree of understanding and empathy towards her requests or needs.
Meaning that, when she tells you of her uncertainties or feelings of revolt over a certain feminine specimen whom she believes is trying to seduce you, you only need to firmly explain that she doesn’t have to worry about it. Clearly, she isn’t going to stop then and there, and she’ll keep pestering you with unending tirades and questions regarding the aforementioned feminine specimen.
However, this doesn’t mean you can’t empathize with her fears or uncertainties, although irrational in nature. Put yourself in her position and try to think from that perspective in order to obtain a more objective opinion. This is why such a problem is worth debating on with calmness and understanding, because it’s not entirely unjustifiable.
Of course, this doesn’t mean you’ll simply allow her emotional manifestations to go unchecked three times a day. Once you’ve patiently explained to her that her fears are unfounded, your partner will tend to keep on behaving in a passive-aggressive and impulsive way. She won’t stop the avalanche of questions or uncertainties from clouding your day.
In this case, you need to know how to impose your will on a topic and make her understand that what you said remains true even two or three hours after the utterance. Knowing how annoying the emotional pestering of a woman can be, I recommend you don’t let them run unchecked.
Compassion will help a lot
As I was saying, you need to know how to approach any kind of problem while discussing with your partner. If you start from an inferior level and you assimilate her position simply because you want to please her, in 9 out of 10 causes, a woman will take advantage of that weakness. Moreover, it’s not healthy or normal in any way to behave like this in a relationship.
However, the opposite extreme isn’t any more efficient or recommended either. In other words, no disciplined man with mastery over his own self should ever have to resort to violence or aggressiveness towards a woman. When there’s a contradiction and she has opposite ideas, you only need to observe who is right and who isn’t.
If you’re certain your approach is factually better and more realistic, then you need to calmly explain to her why you’re going to proceed with your method. If she refuses to admit your reasoning, which she might, you only need to impose your position with firmness and self-confidence. Make her understand that you will do it your own way and no other.
This is because, most of the times, a woman will tend to use her emotional apparatus when solving problems or making decisions. She might also dig out problems and unreasonable uncertainties where there shouldn’t normally be any, all by using the same emotions. It’s your duty to reason out and make everything as realistic and pragmatic as possible, thus leading the relationship to its best potential.
As a man, you need to know how to impose yourself in a firm and calm way
This is the conclusion that you have to understand and apply in a relationship. You don’t have to allow or sustain all her emotional exhortations. Keep your individualism and rational independence. This is essential if you want to keep your attention away from these irritating events.
This won’t stop you from loving your partner who is anyway the paragon of tenderness, adorability, and feminine sexual appeal. Defuse these conflicts with firmness and calmness, using reason and logic. You won’t need to let yourself fall prey to her impulsivity and emotionality. Make her understand that her annoying attitude is pointless as long as you told her that the situation is different from how she sees her.
In other words, we’re coming back to the principles we pointed out at the very beginning – you need to be able to love a woman by being understanding, calm, and empathetic. But also rigid, inflexible, and firm if need be. The unarguably emotional and irrational conflicts that she brings forth with an ease you fail to comprehend must conclude with a rational tour de force of your making.
You need to take the lead and explain to her the false reasoning behind her issue, as well as your opinion on the event. And end the discussion there.
It won’t help at all if you muddy yourself in the same emotional swamp she happily swims in. You can still love her despite all of this.
