HOW TO FIND THE RIGHT WOMAN
What is a right woman?
As a man, you need to find a woman to establish a family. You don’t really have an alternative unless you want to become socially isolated, an extinctive animal that pops up from time to time in society. Assuming you want to find a good woman, you need to understand what is a right or a bad woman. After all, the standards are very subjective, even though most men can agree on certain tastes when it comes to the right woman’s psychology.
The ideal woman is relatively intelligent, in that you can talk to her without having to exhaust your brain to find the right words. Intelligent brings her the humility of someone who understands that she doesn’t know everything and that she has much to learn. Of course, it also depends on the type of man we’re talking about. After all, we all have different tastes depending on our personality. Perhaps you don’t want an intelligent woman who can compete with you and make you feel dumb with her knowledge.
Another characteristic of the ideal woman is her responsibility toward the family ideal. In other words, the right woman realizes that she must play an important role in creating and maintaining order in a family. She plays an emotional and affectionate role – she allows feelings to run freely and she creates happy moments in a family. The ideal woman is, at the same time, loyal to her partner, devoted to the relationship, and understanding. Efficient communication necessitates understanding on both sides, after all.
When will you know you’ve found the right woman?
In most cases, you get to this realization in time, after you’ve had enough time to explore all the nooks and crannies of her mind. Once you meet a woman that intrigues you and determines you to spend more time with her, you shouldn’t hesitate. Someone else might steal her from you, thus prompting you to miss a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. Go and talk to her right now if you’re reading this while sitting next to a beautiful woman.
Find out what she likes, see if you have anything in common, if she’d like you to meet again, and so on. The first step you need to take is to get to know her better. Well enough that you can figure out whether she’s the right one for you or whether she’s a one-night-stand material.
If you feel good when around her, if she makes you feel good with yourself without pretending, that’s a good sign. You, need to see if she has all the other qualifications you most probably have in the back of your head for the ideal woman. Is she intelligent enough or smart? After all, you can’t enter a relationship with someone who isn’t even in the same intellectual stratosphere as you. You need to be able to speak the same language, metaphorically speaking, if you want to understand one another.
At the same time, you need to have common viewpoints about the world. For instance, a vegan would find it pretty damn hard to break bread (or meat in this case) with a full-fledged carnivore. Obviously, the opposite principles would lead to constant arguments and unending conflicts. Ideally, both partners should be on the same wavelength when it comes to overall life principles.
A woman’s emotivity
Both men and women have certain behavioral and mental predilections, regardless of the genetic or social origins. Between the two sexes, women are predominantly more emotional, affectionate, and sentimental. They give life to a relationship in the true sense of the word, bringing happiness to it. A man’s ideal woman is one who isn’t afraid to manifest her emotions when she needs to or feels the need to.
In an ideal relationship, a woman shouldn’t have to necessarily worry about the bigger problems of life. Most of the time, man is doing that for her, the one who excels in a certain domain, the bread-winner of the house. Of course, a woman can and should contribute to the bread-winning activity as well. However, a woman needs to listen and follow a man’s advice, as long as he’s the more experienced one.
However, emotivity gives birth to happiness in a relationship, in that it’s a definitory aspect of happiness. And the woman dabbles almost exclusively in emotions, given that she is an emotional being for the most part. As a man, you need to appreciate this feminine aspect of a woman, and to try to protect her. This is what a woman is looking for in a man – protection and safety. If you can’t protect her or offer her safety where she can feel secure, a woman won’t remain by your side, or she shouldn’t do that.
The obedient and understanding woman
Last but not least, the right woman for any man is understanding and obedient. How you find that woman is up to you. But, trust me – no man will ever want a woman who only nags him all day long, hour to hour, day to day, week to week. That’s not exactly a component of happiness, and it sure as hell isn’t a prerequisite of the ideal woman. The right woman listens when she has to, offers advice when needed, and she’s understanding in discussions. Obviously, the man has to reciprocate this behavior. Any relationship is based on mutual efforts.
When one of the two partners acts exceedingly dominative or aggressive, a relationship becomes dysfunctional. The way in which a man should impose his will consists of:
- Calmness
- An understanding attitude
- Knowledgeable attitude
- Intelligence
- Performance and efficiency
- Responsibility
- Affection and emotivity in private
- Respect for the partner and empathy
If he meets all or most of these standards, a woman has almost no reason to revolt. If the man is a model in many respects, then he’ll obviously have higher standards from a woman. Not just anyone can meet those standards. When you can impose respect through your attitude, then you want a woman with whom you can communicate efficiently, not one that keeps nagging you all the time.
