HOW CAN YOU TELL WHEN IT'S TIME TO BREAK UP
Disagreements between partners
There are plenty of reasons that could make you consider breaking up with someone, from minor, superficial ones, to critical and pressing ones. Before making such a decision, you should, first of all, think about what your priorities are, and which path you want to follow in life. More often than not, you feel this way about your relationship when you are unhappy or unfulfilled with your partner, and the reasons for that could vary. Perhaps the most common cause is lack of harmony in your life together.
You must be realistic. You can’t expect things to always be perfect. If these problems you encounter with your woman can be solved, it’s worth the effort to fix things and to find peace in your couple life again. You have to figure out if the problem stems from how you feel next to her, or how you feel about her.
Arguments and disinterest can come from both directions, especially when one of the partners is going through a difficult period in their life. Be honest with her, if you feel the need to say something about it. Don’t wait for things to cool down on their own. Initiate communication and try understanding how and where everything started.
If there’s a change coming from you, if you no longer feel attracted or happy next to your woman, then these disagreements stem from a lack of compatibility. An issue of this nature is more difficult to reconcile. You have to give it some thought. What made you change your opinion on her so drastically? It’s important in order to be able to take the most objective decision possible. Did you notice dissenting opinions and different desires in too many cases, or are you perhaps just having doubts about her?
Signs you shouldn’t ignore
Both partners can and should make compromises in many instances throughout the relationship. After all, nobody can always agree with absolutely everything you believe and want, no matter who you are. That being said, if you notice that it’s very difficult pleasing her, or that you’re always the one who must disproportionately make trade-offs, then we’ve got a problem. If she’s not willing to put in any effort and is egotistical in your relationship, don’t ever expect to be able to change her attitude.
She might have a ton of qualities you admire, but this kind of relationship dynamic is not healthy, especially for the long term. One of the cornerstones of a relationship is mutual respect, and if she shows no interest whatsoever when it comes to your own needs and desires, then there’s no doubt she doesn’t respect you the way she should.
Another important issue is a lack of maturity. If a woman has superficial priorities and lives in her own bubble, while you are forced to take all the responsibility and daily tasks upon yourself, things are not going so well. Did you notice she can’t take any responsibility? She makes hasty decisions and acts on impulse?
It’s extremely difficult to get along with such a person when it comes to sharing responsibilities or starting a family. You’re justified to feel frustrated and like she’s holding you back, if she won’t follow your positive influence. Immaturity is a flaw fatal to any relationship, whether we’re talking about different levels of maturity between partners, or when both partners are immature.
Furthermore, immaturity and egotism can lead to many other problems in the long run, such as abuse, lack of faithfulness, lies, and more. Unfortunately, you cannot force or convince someone to stop being immature or egotistical. Change has to come from within, and if she shows no sings of being ready, it would be wiser to look somewhere else for a woman suited for a long-term relationship with you.
When is it worth it to make compromises?
If you’re certain that your partner is honest and well-intended, if you can see that she’s receptive when you discuss important matters with her, and that she takes constructive criticism well, these are all good signs. Above all else, she should be open towards your ideas, and she should be willing to change for the better, if needed.
If she fulfils these conditions, it’s very likely for you to reach a common ground. Of course, the same applies to you as well. You must show her that you’re also flexible and willing to work with her in order to get things back on the right track.
If neither of you has to sacrifice too much, compromise will become natural and easy to accept. However, if there are fundamental differences of opinion, if you realize that you both want extremely different things from life, it will be extremely different to reach a conclusion together. You might be highly compatible in many areas, but if your priorities and wishes in life are on opposite ends, your chances of finding satisfaction together diminish considerably.
Don’t let your heart do the thinking for you
Be honest with yourself. No matter how strong the sexual and romantic attraction between you two, there are instances when the differences between partners can be so great, that there are slim chances of ever fixing things. If you want a peaceful, long-term relationship, it becomes even more important for both partners to walk the same path. Otherwise, you can’t expect anything other than constant arguments, disagreements and general dissatisfaction next to your partner.
Hoping that things will get better on their own, or that you can change someone according to your own desires will only bring you disappointment. Instead of wasting your time waiting for the impossible to happen, you can admit your lack of compatibility. It is what it is! It’s tough at first, but it’s the wisest decision for both partners. After all, it’s never too late to seek happiness next to another woman. Nobody’s perfect, but you can certainly find the ideal partner for you, who shares the same ideas and aspirations as you do.
