GRAB, THROW, SLAM
Grab, throw, slam
As violent and as similar as this may sound to wrestling, this won’t be a topic that’s really related to that. Although there will be some resemblances here and there, we’re here today to talk about the more assertive and somewhat aggressive side of sex. While engaging in sexual activities in a more rough and intense manner is quite common, there are those who have yet to realize the pleasure that comes with it.
Although there’s absolutely nothing wrong with going at it in a gentle, romantic and loving manner, it’s important to realize that the human nature is much rawer than that. We crave something more intense and primal, a yearning that we haven’t lost since the dawn of mankind.
While it’s true that some couples feel arousal due to the overall attachment they have for their significant other, that’s only something felt on the surface level. Actual attraction simply comes from the desire to dominate, be dominated and reproduce. The love, affection and care in a relationship are mostly there to sugar coat everything so that it becomes morally acceptable, as per today’s social standards.
Having said that, there’s no shame in submitting to your carnal desires and going wild. Of course, to an extent where you don’t hurt your partner. Unless they want you to, obviously.
Giving in to your instincts
At the end of the day, we’re all pretty much animals in heat that have adopted a moral code so as to be more civilized. But that doesn’t apply to bedroom activities. Or at least it doesn’t have to.
We are taught from a young age to be mannered individuals, to treat those around us justly and to be kind. While these are definitely teachings that we should apply in our day to day lives, they aren’t something that we have to uphold when nighttime comes and you get to share a bed with your partner. Or the floor, a table, so on and so forth.
Learning to let go and give somewhat free reign to the beast inside will open up countless possibilities for pleasure that you have yet to discover. There’s nothing quite like giving in to your deepest desires together with a partner who is willing to do the same.
Of course, you can’t just let yourself run rampant with whatever animalistic instincts you have locked down deep inside you. That could have devastating effects not only on your and your partner’s overall mental health, but also their physical wellbeing.
As such, it’s important that the both of you reach a consensus and learn about each other’s preferences as well as limitations. There’s a term used in BDSM called a safe word that could help you quite a lot in this regard. In case things get too hard to handle you can just use that to let your partner know not to go too far.
Once you get to the point where you feel comfortable with each other getting wild, that’s when the fun begins.
What comes with accepting your inner nature
After coming up with some basic guidelines to help you know what’s off limits, you’re pretty much free to have all the fun you want in the bedroom. Remember how we talked about people having some primal instinct that drives them towards wanting a rougher form of intercourse? Well, it’s time we talked about that a bit more.
It’s common knowledge that in a primitive setting, males tend to be rather violent with their own kind. This applies to sex as well. Now, we have morals to prevent that from happening on a day to day basis, but strip some of them off when it comes to sex and things start getting more interesting.
While men may enjoy being a tad more violent in bed, women can be the opposite. They’ll generally find pleasure in getting dominated and pretty much used by their partner, which brings me to the roles you’ll both share in your sexual endeavors together.
You might find that your man will take great pleasure in your submissive demeanor, becoming aroused to the point where he might even treat you as a toy to a certain degree. But you don’t really mind that do you? Sure, it might have bothered you in other circumstances, but not after embracing your inner desires. Now, you simply find it orgasmic how he dominates you in whichever way he pleases.
Being rough and violent
Rough sex isn’t just your normal intercourse taken up a notch, no. It’s much more than that. It’s a continuous reminder of what can really make your heart throb. Which is submitting to your cravings. Letting yourself get drowned in the sheer pleasure you feel from being dominated or from dominating. It’s something you get from letting your true nature loose every once in a while.
As such, feel free to grab onto your woman, throw her around the bed, slam her face in the sheets while you take her from behind and let yourself do what you’ve always been best at: asserting your absolute sexual dominance, pleasuring your woman and using her to your heart’s content.
Now, as the female counterpart of a relationship, the roles are reversed. You will be the one to say yes to whatever your partner asks for, when he asks for it. This means that you’ll probably have to get accustomed to not only different positions and activities in the bed, but also in other places as well. So, make sure you get along with your floor and other furniture in the house.
Of course, there are cases in which things go the other way around and the man might be the one to succumb to the woman’s desires. This doesn’t mean things won’t get rough or violent, but the act in and of itself is pretty much the same. The only difference will be that the trashing around and throat grabbing, choking, so on and so forth will be done by the her and not him. This, in no way, means sex won’t be just as pleasurable. Who knows, maybe it might be even more so than before.
