ARGUMENTS IN A RELATIONSHIP
How do arguments in a relationship begin?
Let me share a secret with you – relationship arguments almost vanish when a man knows how to manage his relationship and woman. If you know how to impose your perspective well enough, in a rational and calm manner, your woman will prefer following your advice most times. Communication is the key to any successful relationship. Knowing how to interact with your woman will make her submit to you easily. The fewer reasons she has to be unhappy, the better for you.
Of course, women always find reasons to start an argument. However, you’re still the man of the house, right? You need to nip these arguments in the bud. When it comes to women, they find various reasons to start an argument or a fight. Here’s what not to do – back off and admit she’s right. If you do that, a woman tends to become greedy over time. She’s manipulative as well. When she notices your weaknesses, she’ll use them eventually to obtain what she wants.
Moreover, some women spill their personal misgivings on your head, even if you have nothing to do with their problems. In those moments, you need to know how to manage the situation. Do you admit they’re right? Are you calm and you let her yell at the top of her lungs hoping she’ll eventually stop? Or do you cut her off as soon as she starts yapping? For your and your relationship’s sake, I recommend you go with the last option.
You have no other solution left than to be firm in your reasoning and to cut off any emotional or aggressive advance she makes. If you become violent, the argument will degenerate into a physical confrontation, eventually. A relationship can’t be founded on verbal and physical violence because this eventually leads to a rupture. This isn’t a healthy relationship at all. You can’t use verbal aggressiveness too much because the relationship will become too volatile. So, what do you do?
Masculinity and mastery of oneself
How can a man keep hold of his own woman and manage conflicts in a relationship? The simplest way is to do it through your masculinity and calmness. Be reasonable and rationally explain to her why you’re right and she’s not. Most times, this tactic will meet with a resounding failure, as you’ll notice. A woman is a special being, so to speak. She tends to accept rational explanations with difficulty. Her worldview is not rational but emotional and instinctual, that’s why.
She sees the world through emotions and instincts, love and hate, uncertain emotional fluctuations. To her, an injustice is a personal affront that she assumes as such, starting to cry to the moon about the injustices that women have to deal with. Any minor obstacle will shatter her emotional and mental barriers, sending her spiraling down toward instability. She’ll look for the nearest man who can understand and make her feel safe and protected.
So, how do you deal with an emotional woman? Do you become emotional as well so you can speak the same language? No fucking way, you don’t. That would make the argument even more volatile until one of you explodes. As a man, you have something that sets you above a woman – your masculinity and natural aggressiveness.
You can easily impose your will and viewpoint, unlike her. Your arguments need to be strong, to let no doubt trickle in, and to be to the point. This way, you’ll eliminate all her emotional and aggressive leeway. If a calm, rational and understanding discussion doesn’t cut it, then this is your best remaining option.
How do you solve aggressive and violent arguments?
An aggressive and violent argument is an emotional one. You can’t have violence through reason, right? If you’ve recently argued with your woman in a violent way, it means you also became violent by copying her. This method of communication is very inefficient because you don’t transmit any valuable information. All you do is spill your misgivings, disappointment and irritation on the interlocutor. At least you, as a man, must know better.
A woman will always try to pull you to her side of the barricade by pulling at all your nerve endings, figuratively speaking. Your irritation will reach a peak when she starts criticizing you and yapping her mouth endlessly. That’s when you know you should find a solution to this situation. You could easily become violent and aggressive. This would instantly end the arguments. But is that a good solution? Won’t your woman leave your side if you become violent and aggressive? Does a healthy relationship rely only on violence as a sole means of communication?
The answer is “no” for all three of these cases. To shut her up and end all of these arguments, you must show your woman why she’s wrong and you’re right. You need to be firmly convinced in the truth, and use cutting remarks if there’s no other option. Many times, a woman will try to dominate you with her emotions. The only way to make yourself heard is by becoming firmer and more confident in your speech. It’s not a bad idea to throw in an ultimatum if she still doesn’t listen to you. Once she takes a reprieve from talking, you can explain everything to her.
I wholly recommend that you become a masculine and stable man who uses a poised argumentation. If your woman becomes emotional and violent, it’s unlikely that you’ll reach her with pure reason alone. You need to apply a bit of psychological pressure here and there, to make her listen to you.
Once you calm her down or you make her understand that it’s your turn to speak, you can explain all you want. Show her the error of her ways, console her, and understand her issues. You’ll have a happy woman in no time. She won’t ever leave you for anyone else because you’re the only one who can understand what she’s going through.
